Many times, as people we need a timeout, whether that be from work, running errands, or simply having too much fun even, as we always need a timeout to calm and get ourselves back to reality. For instance, look at sports such as Basketball or NFL Football, where a lot of the times both teams are going at each other, in a free flowing and competitive game, however after a certain time, a timeout is called by their respective coaches because usually the team or players end up forgetting about their respective game plans, and hence they need a timeout to be called. Even in Soccer a halftime break occurs, where both team players and coaches are given timeouts or breaks, where they readjust their focus and attention to the game, and take a little break while at it. Timeouts are a necessary part of life if we look at it, from a very young to an even older age.
Moodzie will emphasize the benefits of taking timeouts, and also give along some tips on what to do when taking a timeout. As children, there are mainly two types of timeouts, and they are both positive and negative timeouts, as a negative timeout is simple, and has some benefit, basically whenever someone commits trouble they are given a timeout. For example, if you did something wrong, your mother may give you a timeout and send you to your room, that would be a negative timeout.
Moodzie’s tips for a negative timeout would be, simply understand what you did wrong, realize your mistake, realize it is for your own benefit, and just really calm yourself while at it. Maybe try doing things such as breathing exercises, reading a book, or even something silly such as just blowing bubbles, really anything that can help calm you down and relax you at the same time. On the other end, there are positive timeouts, Moodzie states that positive timeouts have more benefits, and are actually good for the child. Positive timeouts can help children learn great skills, such as calming down, having their own space to calm down, or getting away from whatever they were doing previously. As humans, we all really need breaks but sometimes we just do not realize that hence we end up taking a timeout, or sometime being given a timeout.
Really a positive timeout or negative timeout, either way we should do the same thing, and that is to calm and relax ourselves while realizing, that we may have made a mistake. The only difference between the two is the fact that a positive timeout, happens in a positive manner, whereas a negative happens more so in a consequential manner. For example, you have been working too hard maybe you need a break, that would be an example of a positive timeout. Whereas a negative timeout would be more like, that you have been playing videogames all day and you should stop, hence you get a timeout, hence both are similar but different. To conclude, either way timeouts are great and should be taken more often, as they have various benefits, especially related emotional regulation and mood control, also they are Moodzie approved.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, scared, anxious, angry or frustrated it is best to ask for time out to calm yourself. You will feel much better after having time out.
Here are some great activities to do while you are taking time out:
Last week I shared the 5 Steps to Managing Big Emotions Poster as a tool to help parents and children navigate those times when children are struggling to express their feelings in socially acceptable ways (you can find out more about the 5 steps and print a copy of the poster here).
Navigating childhood challenges can be stressful, and sometimes deep breathing isn’t the solution that works for your child. When your child is in need of tension relief, try one of these techniques: Try an inversion. For centuries, Yogis have understood the calming power of bringing the head below the level of the heart, otherwise known as inversion.